#1. The Backstory
This was the first annual MOMENTUM Conference on sexuality, feminism, relationships and new media. The conference was organized by Tied Up Events. According to Tess, they started getting the idea for this conference after the Sex Blogging session at BlogHer'10. (We were there! We witnessed history in the making and didn't even know it!)
This is what we had to say back then about the Sex Blogging session at BlogHer:
This was one time when we didn't have to worry about having 'your blog is called what?!' moments with anyone in the room, and we really enjoyed the conversation about openness, anonymity, where to draw the line and what to do when your neighbors or relatives discover your slutty blog. And any workshop that you leave with a bag of new sex toys can't be half bad.Hm. Replace the word 'workshop' with 'conference' and we just described MOMENTUM itself....
In case you're unsure, MOMENTUM was not a sex event. There was no public or organized 'play' (although attendees were obviously free to make whatever private arrangements they wanted to - and we're sure some of them did).
#2. The Sessions and Keynotes and Performances
SEX RULES
Maria Falzone
Description: A hilarious and inspirational performance that addresses serious sexual subjects in a frank and funny manner. Through lecture and audience participation, Falzone speaks to students about topics from safe sex to self-sex and everything in between. The message behind “SEX RULES” is that sex should be fun and satisfying emotionally, as well as physically.
Best quote: "If someone calls you a cunt, respond with 'that's juicy cunt to you, now move on and don't make me slap you with it.'"
The Opening Keynote: Making Waves in Sexuality
Jenny Block, Reid Mihalko, Carol Queen and Tristan Taormino and moderated by Lynn Comella
Description: The keynote panelists, all of whom have made significant impact in their own spheres, discuss the role of sexuality in today’s culture, how they are making waves and what the attendees can do to carry forward the momentum by generating conversations about sexuality that fit into daily life.
Best quote: "It's not easy being this easy" ~ Reid Mihalko
Odd Girl Out: Straddling the Fields of Sexual Health and Sexual Pleasure
Megan Andelloux
Description: In the modern field of sexual education, a huge gulf exists between the culturally safe subject of sexual health and the risqué research on sexual pleasure. The professionals who attempt to do credible work on sexual pleasure are often shamed, discredited, or even ostracized for such heresy. How can these two worlds co-exist?
Best quote: "I work very closely with medical professionals teaching them to do pelvic exams for the first time. So I like to say I'm the 'First Response Vagina'."
Business Management Techniques for Sex Positive Entrepreneurs
Sarah Sloane
Description: Review of basic business setup and evaluating needs for professional support, as well as how to create an ethical statement (as well as a mission statement) to help both guide the direction of the business as well as help with marketing and social media direction.
Best quote: "It's very easy when everybody thinks you're having shit-tons more sex than you are and the sex must be better than theirs, to get a big ego. I had somebody who said 'I bet you have sex all the time' and I was like 'what month is it?'"
"What I'm validating is people's right to determine their won sexuality and their own sexual expression. [...] I believe that by validating that, we make that loving and compassionate change, because when we feel like we're getting our needs met it is so much easier for us to be loving and compassionate to the people around us."
Media Events for the Sex Positive Professional 101
Reid Mihalko
Description: Reid discusses the dos and don’ts to running media events and how to leverage press attention. Reid also discusses his current experiences with selling a television show in Hollywood, the basics of how to run a killer media event, as well as breaking down what he did that helped turn Cuddle Party into an international media darling that garnered over 1.5 million dollars worth of free publicity.
Best quote: "I firmly believe that all press is good press... if you have your shit handled."
Who is SexyKitty69? Exploring the social media pros & cons of anonymity
Samantha Fraser, Katherine Curtis, Stef Woods and Shanna Katz and moderated by Twanna A. Hines
Description: An examination of the pros and cons of blogging about dating, sex and love lives from both anonymous and non-anonymous viewpoints. Sex/dating bloggers on both sides of the coin discuss the benefits and pitfalls involved in sharing your identity while discussing dirty deeds. How does coming out affect your relationships, your work and the way people interact with you? How does protecting your identity keep your stories relevant and entertaining to the reader?
Best quote: “This is the first conference I’ve been to that isn’t filled with Storm Troopers.” ~ Katherine Curtis
Kat Curtis of Naked News even has a Storm Trooper manicure!
Sex Positive Interventions: The Feminist Sex Wars and Beyond
Lynn Comella and Carol Queen
Description: Discussion on the history of the feminist sex wars and the rise of sex positive feminism. More specifically, the importance of sex positive feminist interventions – writing and blogging, media commentary, and other forms of cultural production, including pornography – in helping to mediate and reshape public discourses about sexuality, sex work, and sexual commerce.Sex & Race in America: Opening the Bedroom Door
Best quote: "Oh please don't blog that. No tweeting that. It's like... I love your social media, but stop it now." ~ Lynn Comella
Twanna A. Hines
Description: Fast, accurate information about what’s new with sex and race in American bedrooms. We often fragment ourselves into separate social identities, forgetting that we all live in the intersection. It’s possible to be male and feminist, black and a sexual being or a lesbian who transitions to a straight man. Discussion of recent pop culture news, films, newspaper and magazine articles related to the intersection of race/ethnicity, sex and gender. Apply knowledge gained during this session to broader discussions about overlapping identities.
Best quote: "People say 'You know, I don't see race, like I don't talk about it. I don't see it. It's not something that enters my consciousness. When I look at people, I don't look at them and say 'that is a black woman.' I actually don't even see that she's black. I don't see race when I'm talking to people.' That's interesting, because you wouldn't say that about gender: 'When I talk to someone, I don't even see if they're a woman or a man. Rachel, she could be a dude, she could be a woman, I don't know, I don't even notice that, like it's not something that I see. The thing about that is it's just not honest. Like, you can say it's not something I care about."
The Closing Keynote: Multigen Feminist Pornographers Mouth Off
Susie Bright and Tristan Taormino
Description: A look at both the origins and the current state of feminist pornography. Susie discusses her work with two of the earliest and most influential porn creations, On Our Backs magazine and Fatale Video as well as starting the first mail order catalog and erotic video library at Good Vibrations when it was a 2-girl operation! Tristan talks about the rise of feminist pornography and her own work with Evil Angel, Smart Ass Productions, and Vivid Entertainment. Both women reflect on the challenges and crazed victories of their history in sex-ed/porn.
Best quote: "I've been the subject of a 13-person gang bang and the most degraded I ever felt was in mainstream TV" ~ Tristan Taormino
#3. The Sponsors and Vendors
The premier sponsor of the conference was Fascinations, the "sex positive, educational and innovative retailer that empowers sexual satisfaction". They have a large selection of toys, lubes, DVDs, books and more, as well as free sexuality education articles and workshops. We want to give them a very big THANK YOU for sponsoring this conference because we truly are very grateful to have had the opportunity to attend such an awesome event for only $55.
We have gone to so many conferences and events over the years. Although this is the first conference on sexuality that we have attended, we've somehow acquired a large number of free vibrators. Yes, it is true. We have more vibrators than we can possibly use and haven't paid for a single one. (We've also gotten so much free lube over the years that we could fill a tub and bathe in it. But we won't, because it would probably be really hard to clean up after that, and knowing us we'd fall and hurt ourselves getting out the tub and it would be tough to explain that at the emergency room. Anyway, the point is we have a lot of free lube.) So we weren't surprised when we opened our gift bag from Fascinations and saw a bottle of lubricant and a vibrator, but it does score points for being our first rechargeable free vibrator. We were also impressed that they also provided a toy for those attendees who happen to have a penis; it's the first time we've personally received one of those. Of course, not having a penis ourselves, we'll have to gift that one out, but it was still pretty cool.Additional sponsors of MOMENTUM included Wet who sponsored the Recharge Room and FetFest who sponsored A Taste of CineKink (another MOMENTUM supporter).
MOMENTUM also had a 'Marketplace' where a lot of great vendors were selling their goods...
- Inciting Defiance: Visibility for your Identity - really cool t-shirts, magnets, light switch and outlet covers and tiny little "identity" buttons with almost every label you could think of.
- Sugar - lesbian-owned, women and trans operated, mission-driven sex toy shop from Baltimore
- Crystal Delights - hand blown glass (medical quality Pyrex) erotic toys
- Sliquid - a line of personal lubricants and other intimate products, including but not limited to natural, glycerin-free/paraben-free lube (it's even 100% vegan)
- PAPAYA Toys™ - German designed and engineered (manufactured in Asia) 100% medical grade silicone toys
- Bluestockings - radical bookstore, fair trade cafe, and activist center in the Lower East Side of Manhattan
- For Your Nymphomation™ - storage cases with a lock and key designed to discreetly hide your 'pleasurables' (condoms, sex toys, etc.)
- Athena’s Home Novelties - one of the country's leading at-home adult novelty companies
#4. The Compliments
We have to say, this was one of the best conferences we have been to so far. Considering that it was their first year - and priced so low at only $55 - and was still able to not only hold its own against (but actually surpass in some ways) some of the bigger, longer-running conferences with major corporate sponsorships... that's really a huge accomplishment to say that MOMENTUM was really that good.
This was one of the most reasonably-priced conferences that we have had the pleasure of attending but the old adage "you get what you pay for" did not apply in this case. We got so much more than we paid for!
First of all, it was the fastest, easiest, most pleasant conference registration ever. Seriously. We were at the registration table one minute after registration officially started and they were ready for us. Everything was totally organized and ran super smoothly. We loved that they gave us FREE ICE CREAM on the first night and that the opening keynote was in the evening (instead of in the morning, when we were sure to be tired and cranky and hungover). And the presence of a bar during the keynote was great - any conference that encourages you to drink during the keynote gets the thumbs up from us.
As you can tell by what we already wrote about the sessions (see #2 above) everything was of great quality and the speakers not only knew what they were talking about, but were passionate about the subject matter. Not once did we leave a session thinking "well that was a waste of time" or "they really should've prepared more." Also, we thought it was pretty cool that there were 20-minute breaks between sessions (and a hefty amount of time allotted for lunch and dinner) so we were able to talk after a really great session and not have to worry about rushing to get to the next one on time. Plus, all of the session rooms were located right near each other which made that even more convenient.
Another great convenience was the Recharge Room. We could stop in and juice up our computers or grab some coffee... they even had chocolate covered almonds and rice krispie treats. And lots of lube thanks to WET (see #3 above). MOMENTUM really knows the way to our hearts.
Obviously we also enjoyed the fact that no one gave us a weird look when we said our blog name. Even though we're not technically sex bloggers (and our content is downright tame compared to some of the attendees) we felt right at home. And we absolutely have to praise Tess and Diva for MOMENTUM's privacy policy. Not only did they let attendees chose what they would like their badges to say (e.g., a pen name vs. the name on your credit card) but they color-coded the badges in order to indicate attendees' willingness to be photographed. That was a refreshing change for those of us who are still anonymous (especially after having been to conferences where sessions are not only photographed, but often videotaped!)
Overall, we have nothing but praise for MOMENTUM.
#5. The Criticisms
Didn't you see that we just said we have nothing but praise!?
Anyone who knows us, knows that we love to complain and we just do not hold back. So it may shock some of you to learn that we do not have any criticisms of this conference. None. The only bad things we could possibly say about the event are all related to the hotel (see #6 below) which has nothing to with Momentum or Tess or Diva. So our only complaint is that Momentum deserved better!!
This list could go on and on. Basically, everyone we met at MOMENTUM was awesome.
As we mentioned above, the conference was not actually held in D.C. but in nearby Silver Spring, Maryland. Not a big deal, since it was easily accessible with the D.C. Metro. But speaking of that - we will never complain about the MTA again after our experience with the Metro. (Okay, we totally will, but not for the next few weeks.) We're used to the NYC subway where every ride is the same price, but with the Metro there are different prices depending on the station and the time of day. The times are broken up into Regular, Reduced, and Peak-of-the-peak, which makes no sense at all. Why is there a Peak-of-the-peak when there's no Peak? So you have to do the math yourself, which is no big deal but a little inconvenient when you have a long line of people stretching out behind you. You also have to insert your ticket again to exit (good thing we didn't throw them out like we might have with a single ride ticket in NYC) and pay an "exit fare" if you managed to screw up the calculations and not pay enough. Fun!
Very complicated instructions!
One cool thing about the location of the hotel (there were no cool things about the hotel itself) was that it was just a few blocks away from "downtown" Silver Spring and an outdoor shopping center full of shops and restaurants. The first night that we were there, we went to a place called the Copper Canyon Grill for dinner. We were tired and cranky and hadn't had a real meal while traveling, and we can honestly say that Copper Canyon made it all better.
Much like MOMENTUM was our first complaint-free conference, we couldn't find a single thing wrong with our meal. Everything was great. So great that we ended up having dinner there all three nights that we were in town. We got particularly obsessed with the glazed carrots, which were like little pillows of sweet orange awesomeness. We even converted one of our waiters who was "not a carrot person" by insisting that he try them; once he did he admitted that the experience was life-changing.
These carrots are life-changing.
This dessert was too much even for us.
We were deeply saddened to learn that there is no Copper Canyon Grill anywhere in the New York area. We're seriously considering opening a franchise. Those carrots were really good.
So while we didn't care for the hotel (did we mention anything about that yet?), we would definitely return to the Silver Spring area for a conference in the future. Or, you know, just make a quick trip down to eat at Copper Canyon. Those carrots were really good.
So while we didn't care for the hotel (did we mention anything about that yet?), we would definitely return to the Silver Spring area for a conference in the future. Or, you know, just make a quick trip down to eat at Copper Canyon. Those carrots were really good.
#10 What Others Are Saying About MOMENTUM
- Momentum Recaps and Reflection (Conflicted eXXistence)
- Momentum: The Inspiration (uncensor: A Place for Dialogue)
- Crowne Plaza, Silver Spring MD Review (aagblog)
- Ep. 2 - Awksome (Fort Dork - podcast)
- Finding My Own 'Momentum' (Deviant Dance)
- Why MomentumCon Rawks (Poly Weekly)
- Sustaining the Momentum (Practical Polyamory)
- Momentum Con - Part 1: These are My People
- My First Burlesque Show (Imagine Today)











7 comments:
Wow! That's an amazing post. Loved reading about Momentum and your experience. The hotel sounds the worst.
In a sadistic (or is it masochistic?) way I'm getting a kick out of reading everybody else's horror stories on the hotel.
My fave one-liner: the room floors were like being in Castle Wolfenstein. YES.
I did a Part 2 post as well, and quite frankly have at least 6 other con-related posts up. The sessions and the people taught me SO much.
But yes agreed, what a fucking feat that the only complaints on this con from anybody are about the hotel and not the con. Also thank you for pointing out that the vibe is rechargeable, I hadn't even noticed, lol. (no, I've not yet unpacked)
http://dangerouslilly.com/2011/04/momentum-con-part-2/
Thanks for this post, Sluts!
Very complete, detailed and fun to read. Love the best lines from sessions and of course, the hotel horror story. What a shame about that but next year we'll find a better one. Any suggestions?
Hope to see you soon.
xo
Tess
What a comprehensive, delightful, entertaining post! Thanks so much for sharing it.
Ack, sorry to hear about your experience(s) with the hotel (I'm local, so I wasn't staying in it. I did feel like the room for Reid's presentation Saturday afternoon was about 50 degrees though. :)).
I was at the bar Sunday night after the conference was over too...I'm not sure who you both are, so I don't know if I met you! :) Regardless, thanks again for this post—I loved reading it—and I'm delighted to know of your blog and its aim!
Lastly, I got my initial post on the conference up last night (technically early this morning). It's here: http://thegreenlightdistrict.org/wordpress/2011/04/an-extraordinary-gathering-and-a-gathering-of-the-extraordinary/.
All best,
Em
At least they didn't have bed bugs. I checked ; )
It absolutely astounds me how utterly foolish hotels can be about scheduling conferences and the like. The summer Fetish Flea Fair (a New England Leather Association event) one year recently ended up sharing a hotel (I'm omitting the name because I don't want to inadvertently shame the wrong chain) with some youth soccer conference. While the Crown Clueless clearly had some issues with the fact that they'd scheduled a sex-positive conference at the same time as the youth event, this hotel DID schedule a very overt adult-themed conference, including workshops on electricity toys, erotic ropework, and various fetish panels. We're talking about an event where it would neither be unusual nor inappropriate to see a pony player in full regalia or a grown individual on a leash. It was the single LEAST comfortable FFF I have ever attended.
I find it utterly ridiculous that the Crown Clueless treated MOMENTUM the same way this chain treated the FFF, but I'm glad to read that it doesn't seem to have put a damper on your experiences at all! It sounds like a great conference, and something I might totally be interested in if I do keep with this blog thing in a more serious capacity.
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