So without further ado, we bring you... Chiquita:
Try to imagine this: you just walk in the door to hear the phone ring. Picking it up, you have the following conversation:
"Hello?"Now, the couple above...is married. Living apart. Next door. This is the life of this couple: married, living apart. My husband and I are very much in love, granted, we're also newlyweds; however, I've often wondered what it would be like to have a house of my own, decorated just so, and to be free to live as messily or as neurotically cleanly as I pleased. Initially, when reading about successful married couples like the one above, my reaction is...I'm utterly appalled. Indeed, do they have SEX? Do they even TALK? I can't help but think it must be something like having a relationship with your neighbor that doesn't end up with your neighbor's toothbrush in your bathroom. The most natural thing in the world, or so I thought, was for a relationship to progress from a twosome living in separate domiciles to cohabiting a single residence. Having reviewed the national divorce statistics for the US, however, it's easy to see that the standard definition of marriage may not be contributing to marital happiness. So, what could be the outcome of a couple that chooses to reside in separate residences, yet remain, hopefully happily, together?
"Hey, honey, it's me. How was your day?"
"Oh, fine; I just walked in the door. Is that your tachometer going?"
"Oh, yeah--I'm trying out a new speed for Wagner."
"Will you be coming over tonight for dinner?"
"Nah, I have to get this down--remember that concert coming up this weekend?"
- Decreased physical availability of partner for connubial consumption. (How the hell are you going to have sex if your partner spends his/her nights somewhere else?)
- Kids, should one choose to reproduce; where are you going to raise them?
- Increased dependence on yourself.
- Finances: can one afford separate residences?
- Dissatisfaction with relationship.
- Increased independence. Hey, having to rely on yourself to change a lightbulb or fix a broken pipe may be character-enhancing.
- Ability to decorate as you please.
- Perhaps greater sexual satisfaction.
- Greater reliance on communication to bridge gaps in differences.